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Throughout the years of marriage counseling and training couples through our various seminars
and programs, I have come to realize how sex is important and at the same time, a serious
unspoken problem in couples (especially in Africa).
Lovemaking is a very crucial tool for the success of any marriage.
Marriage is surely not based on sex but sex plays a very big role in terms of intimacy and covenant re-enforcement.
Having sex is surely different from Making love.
Having sex has a physical note in it while making love is more emotional and sentimental.
Lovemaking is a gift from God and a gift to be enjoyed in the context of marriage.
I am not sure if God had in mind another way of re-production among human beings but the only
revealed way in the wise book is through sex. …and Adam knew his wife Eve…
They were already married and blessed by God before sex happened. God blessed them!
Sex is not like trying the size of a shoe like many told me. Sex before marriage has its own
devastating consequences. Be careful!
Lovemaking is a channel by which soul-ties are created in people’s lives.
Performed before and out of marriage, sex brings illegal and evil soul-ties. Soul-ties are doors for
many curses in our communities. Curses not broken will go from one generation to another.
And the two shall become one flesh…
If a man goes with a prostitute, they become one flesh …
Married people who practice sex in marriage become more and more bound.
Lovemaking brings people into covenant and also maintains them into that covenant by re-
enforcing it. The more sex, the stronger the covenant!
A good couple should make love as many times as possible. Good love making always inspires for
another round. May be not the same night but … very soon!
A couple that does not make love frequently is a very weak and fragile couple. Love making brings
people back together and sometimes even create atmosphere for better communication.
I have noticed that many couples make love after fighting or having a serious argument. Love
making might be a signature on the paper of reconciliation.
Love making is a skill just like driving a car.
People spend money, effort and time getting skills in driving a car and even table manners. Love
making is perceived to be a natural thing and everybody could do it without any skills. We all have
natural talents but for one to be good and exceptional, they need to be trained.
I saw many books on sex but the one I like most is the one with blank pages all the way through.
The lesson in the blank pages is that no one can really teach you on the practical love making
because it all depends on your partner.
What does he or she want?
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